I had a dream of a husband and wife sitting on a checkered white, tan, and brown couch in a dimly lit living room. He was giving her a belated birthday gift. She was grateful and happy. He had his back to me but his shirt was off. He was very muscular like a bodybuilder. His back seemed about 5 feet wide. He was swole’ up. I asked what the occasion was, and he said a belated birthday gift. Quickly calculating it was not near her birthday and mumbled some comment as to not having the money previously. He seemed bothered at the recognition. I had asked another question previously but when I awoke I could not remember it. I was incensed and put off because I knew that his girlfriend had bought the gift for his wife. I began to wake up while I was beginning to tell him that no lie is getting into heaven. Adultery is a lie. Pretending to care and love your wife is a lie. No lie is getting into heaven.

Discernment and intuition upon waking up

He was sorry, embarrassed but grieved, burdened and exhausted (marriage and pretense – living a lie – too much to carry – unresolved issues – lack of support in the way he needs) Swollen up = inflamed or frustrated

Nakedness (lacking righteousness)

Souls in danger (He for adultery but on both parts for unforgiveness and bitterness)

Her face could not be seen, gratefulness, yet embittered 

The scene conveyed one’s sin as overt and the other covert, also his pains revealed and her pain hidden.

• Matthew 5:25-26 Agree with your adversary quickly, while you are on the way with him, lest your adversary deliver you to the judge, the judge hand you over to the officer, and you be thrown into prison. Assuredly, I say to you, you will by no means get out of there till you have paid the last penny.

• The Lord is exposing hidden sins. He is disclosing blood Isaiah 26:21, which in the Word is likened to sin see Psalm 51” sins as scarlet, white as snow.

• The Lord has said these marriages are likened to war: diplomatic talks coming to no agreement/truce, seasonal cease-fires only to engage in preparing for other battles, false white flags of surrender, sanctions of tying purse strings, and ambushes of bringing up old history to justify current breaches of agreement.

• The Lord told me that the enemy is going to exploit these unresolved marriages to bring about destruction. He will leverage these open gates of opportunity, breaching security. Because these marriages have opted for utilizing coping mechanisms: cheating, drugs, drinking, flirting, prostitutes, flirting and browsing, pornography and masturbation, fantasy, and all other types of self fulfillment, He will allow that to be made known.

• TO WIVES: First and foremost, I don’t know what has led to infidelity in your situation. Men’s first and deepest need is to be respected, trusted, venerated, and consulted. A husband hates being controlled, directed or manipulated by emotions or demands. They are logical and need facts in decision-making. They will decide what they will be, do, or say. Suggesting with coercion, nagging, or demands to get your desired results will usually bring about resentment. 

• A wife’s fears, what-ifs, projected outcomes must be given to God – a husband cannot give ‘soul peace’. God reserves that for Himself that He may get the glory. Bringing up failed decisions, old problems or mistakes doesn’t instill trust, faith, or unity. A wife must not undermine a husband’s perspective or decisions, constantly overthink and rehash a decided solution, or worry audibly to the nth degree. Driving fears are no excuse to assault and bombard the husband.

• 1 Peter 3:1-6 says that a wife must sometimes serve her husband in silence.  Notice how it says that he is not to be manipulated by external appearances, but the husband is moved by the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit. So the voice AND spirit must be stilled to trust in God’s help for the husband. Psalms 46:10 says, “Be still and know that He is God.” Jeremiah 17:5-8 says “Cursed is the man that leans on the arm of flesh …and blessed is the man that trusts in God. 

• The Bible defines rebellion as witchcraft and stubbornness to iniquity and idolatry. It is a determined willfulness. Rebellion is a refusal to submit, an inability to control outcomes produces insecurity or fear. This denotes a deep lack of trust. This principality will use fears, anxieties, feminine persuasion, threats, and embellishment to gain control. This is where the fruit of self-control must be developed. 

• In decisions, he should be willing to cooperate and discuss insights, but then the wife must trust and convey sincere belief in God in him, and then pray in faith without ceasing. Only then will he be able to see your value in the spirit of lovingkindness, helpfulness and service. Unanswered prayers and a brass heaven is God’s way of teaching the husband the consequences of unwise discernment, willfulness, or mistreatment of you.

•  When I failed in my marriage, I asked Jesus to help me do Ephesians 5:33 AMPC towards Him. “ …and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly].” 

Conclusion:

While infidelity is egregious and perceived in the heart as utter betrayal, resolution can be sought in owning shared responsibility. What is the reason for unfaithfulness? Is he/she a serial cheater, or faltering out of a need going unmet? God’s grace is enough to cover this. God is able to clear the foundations and build again. Proverbs 14:10 says the heart knows its own bitterness. Communication must be truthful, else issues will remain undisclosed and misunderstood. Beware of being outwitted by the bewitching of your needs, seductions and destructions of the enemy of our soul. 

Be reminded, “If two of you agree on earth about anything, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven”. The Lord previously gave a dream of Jesus building a hardwood floor over an ebbing sea, to convey “Love covers a multitude of sins.” It spoke to love’s capability, durability, and longevity.

Proverbs 11:14, Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety. In an effort to work things out privately, it may have created space for the devil to enter. Don’t let shame, bitterness, or pretense prevent you from overcoming. Greater is He that is in you, than he that is in the world.

Grace and peace be multiplied to applicable marriages.